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[...] Subject: The Couple and the Unconscious 1. What allows a meeting between two people to form a couple? Introduction The couple relationship is one of the most complex forms of interaction, as biological, psychological, interactive, social, and cultural aspects are involved. In this logic, the analysis of the concept of couple must consider it as a system, as an independent structure of the two members. That's why, it remains relevant to account for the complexity of this concept by appreciating it according to the identification of the phases of the couple cycle and the main contents of these phases in order to answer the question posed. [...]
[...] With society putting individualism at the center of the game, is the formation of a couple still the norm? As divorces have largely increased in Western countries and algorithms present in dating app choose our future partners, it remains crucial to think about how a couple is formalized since, outside of biological principles guided by the reproduction of the human species, external factors (sociological in particular) guide people towards each other. 2. What role does the unconscious play in this encounter and what problems can the couple encounter as a result of this unconscious link? [...]
[...] II. Attraction and alchemy The experience of a romantic relationship describes a period of strong attraction and desire for closeness and contact with another person. This emotional state can be distinguished by factors such as intense euphoria, idealization of the other person, a strong concentration of thoughts on this person, or the desire for this experience of contact.4 (Moser, 1994). The feelings experienced during a meeting are often described as overwhelming and irresistible and greatly influence our behaviors and thoughts. [...]
[...] In both cases, the person who suffers from these harmful behaviors may come to perceive the partner as a threat to their own safety and well-being, thereby fueling feelings of disgust. Furthermore, serious transgressions, such as infidelity or abuse of trust, can inflict deep wounds within the relationship. The consequence can be an extremely difficult-to-overcome sense of betrayal. IV. Solution and management of unconscious influences Couple therapy is often considered a preferred solution for many crisis relationships. However, as with any therapeutic intervention, it is not always the ideal solution for every couple. [...]
[...] Following this distinction, it is possible to consider the construction of a solid relationship. IV. Building a solid relationship Through coexistence and interaction, the couple must establish agreements on power and control mechanisms (such as influencing others, conflict resolution, decision-making) that will allow each member of the couple to satisfy their interests and abilities within the relationship, establishing agreements on what to do and not to do so that the relationship continues and solidifies. In order to overcome crises and endure over time, the couple can incorporate aspects of individual development into the couple's relationship, modifying dysfunctional or rigid interaction agendas that, as a couple, may have structured during coexistence, developing new forms of interaction and coexistence that consider both the stages of development and the context in which they develop, as well as the personal and couple interests that are currently present, establishing new goals together.8 (Maestre, 2009). [...]
